“If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them and half as much money”. Famous words by Pauline Phillips, aka “Dear Abby”
Words to think about as we finish up this season of giving and move into the new year. Did I spoil my kiddo with lots of toys for Christmas? You betcha I did! Clara is at such a fun age right now where she is curious and checking out every new thing. And with it being her first Christmas I was so excited to make it special! But as we opened all of our presents on Christmas morning, you know what made her happy? You guessed it- the wrapping paper! When we were baking cookies to take to family and friends you know what she was playing with? Not her new toys. She was banging around spoons on pots and pans in grandma’s kitchen. She may have a future in a heavy metal band 🙂
Here is Clara on Christmas Eve at Grandma’s with her new Llama Llama. She’s a major Llama fan 🙂
Now I know she did enjoy a lot of the new bells and whistles that she was gifted, but really it was the experience of the holiday that lit up her face.
I think overall I do a pretty good job at giving Clara my time and attention, but I know I could do better. I’m a stay at home mom, so we are around each other all day long, but I’m not always present or attentive to her when needed. It’s good for kids to develop the ability to play alone and not need to be entertained every moment of the day. But when it’s mommy and Clara time, it needs to be only that, NOT mommy messes around on her phone while sitting next to baby.
This brings me to my New Years resolutions.
1. Be more focused and attentive. I’ve learned that if I give Clara my full attention during playtime and meals, then when it is time for a break I can do so guilt free. This also makes her more willing to give me a break because her needs have been met. When my husband Cameron is home he deserves my attention (and I deserve his) as well. This means distractions will be removed during family time in the evening.
2. Develop a “less is more” mindset in my household. I wouldn’t consider myself a minimalist by any measure, but I’m not overly attached to physical items. Cameron however is the king of acquiring knick knacks. When we moved from our one bedroom home in Nashville to our current home in Cleveland I thought we would have so much extra room, but we quickly have filled up the space. To address this we have named each first Saturday of the month a purge and donate day. We will each have to find at least one item (or more) to toss away or donate.
My hope is that implementing these two resolutions into my daily life will help me to model that time (and not things) are what is most important to my daughter.
I would love to know what your goals or resolutions are for 2018. Drop a comment below and let me know!